Appreciating things that didn’t work out in life

10 July 2017

I had came to realize. Many things in my life didn’t work out the way I have planned for myself. Life – the most ugly and most beautiful thing in the universe. By nature, all living things are imperfect. Every living thing meets its end sooner or later – even the universe itself will tear apart and, one day, die.

I have lived my life by constantly making mistakes, constantly faltering and changing the path and directions of life. And yes, I have screwed it up, immensely, deeply and hurtfully. It’s failing miserably over and over again that will allow you to succeed. It’s struggling and losing that will allow you to prosper and find happiness.

Everything in your life must have happened in order for you to exist – every single, little thing. You would not be the exact same person if any of your past experiences were different. The greatest moments of clarity in your life will come when you look back at your journey and conclude that it was all-necessary and that it’s all beautiful.


That moment you realize if you hadn’t failed miserably, you would have never learned your lesson.

People fail all the time – often failing multiple times at the very same things. Failing is one of the greatest things in the world, as it reminds us how imperfect we are. It reminds us how much we need to learn in order to become the people we wish to be.

Some of your largest failures in life will become your greatest assets. Some day you will realize that if you had never failed, then you would have never succeeded.


That moment you realize that a broken heart has changed your life forever.

A broken heart – what can I say? I haven’t been the same person ever since. It changed the fabric of my being and I have turned into an entirely different person.

A broken heart is one of the most emotionally debilitating experiences in the world, just a matter of time until you fall into uncountable broken pieces, these which will built your empire. Turning you into this independent power woman, you never experienced yourself to be. It can be a brutal misery, but believe me when I tell you that it’s a necessary one.


That moment you realize your “dream job” was never really your dream job.

It takes some people longer than others to arrive at their purpose in life. Because what exactly is your purpose in life? To become successful and rich or have an ordinary life but feeling immensely happy? What is it that we as human beings crave for? And in which proportions do we feel satisfied and content?

I had my PR internship working for Tiffany & Co. and M.A.C. Cosmetics, and though it was more than I could ever wish for. It crossed my mind: was this the so-called dream job? Experiencing that moment of realization, was something empowering, because you know that there is something more, something greater, waiting for us.


That moment you realize your best friends aren’t your friends at all.

Throughout life, we go through more friends than we go through pairs of jeans. Most of the people we once thought would be there to support us will one day abandon ship and leave us to drown.

Realizing that someone who you thought was your good friend is actually no friend at all is one of the most important lessons of your life. You’ll realize that it’s better not to have any friends at all than to have impostors. And those friends who are your true friends you’ll learn to appreciate even more.


That moment you realize your world just fell apart entirely, and you’re still standing.

Life is incredibly complex – I’m not even talking about life as a whole, but each of our personal lives. There are so many aspects and so many details that make up who we are as individuals that it can be nearly impossible to hold everything together.

I got to be honest – life is just way too hard at times and sometimes things are meant to fall apart and break. Sometimes the life you are leading is so far from the life you are meant to be living that losing everything is the only way you can make it out on top.

The moment you realize that not even loss itself can stop you, that sadness, despair, anger and fear cannot hold you back, is the moment you become perfect. Perfectly flawed, but perfect nonetheless.

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