I am going to start this piece off by telling you something that you may not want to hear. I truly believe, however, that if you are open and receptive to this idea, it will change your life for the better >>
You are exactly where you are in life solely because of the way you think.
You may be rich, middle class, poor, fit, unhealthy, in a career you love, in a job you hate, etc. The one determining factor of your circumstances is your way of thinking. It’s the only reason why you are where you are. The only person you have to blame for your success or failure in life is yourself. I know some of you may not want to hear that, but it’s true. I know we all have our problems to deal with, but if you blame your circumstances, or anything that’s out of your control, for your problems, its up to those circumstances to change in order for you to be happy. With that way of thinking, you have no power over those situations, and ultimately you have no power over your life.
Now I’m not saying that you can just wish for success and it will be given to you, because we all do that. Everybody wishfully thinks of the life they want to live, yet so few of us actually attain it. What I’m talking about is a profound and lasting change in your attitude towards life, being able to stay positive and resilient throughout any kind of situation; this is the way of thinking that can, and will, change you for the better.
Your thoughts lead your actions. All of your habits are birthed from thought, and these habits are what lead to behaviours, and those behaviours are what shape your circumstances in life. An example: your job is solely underneath your level, meaning that you aren’t making the kind of money that you feel you deserve. You blame the economy; blame your employer, or whomever else you can for your position in life. Because you have these negative thoughts – you start slacking off at work, because after all, this job is beneath you so why would you try hard? These behaviours make it so that you never advance.
In order to change anything that’s on the outside you have to start by making changes within yourself. Some people will wish for a better life but they never strive to make themselves better, and they wonder why their life isn’t going anywhere. Life isn’t “doing” anything to you, it’s responding to the energy you put out. If you fail to realize this, then you will continue to fail in life.
If you want to find a way out of your circumstances start first with yourself, and you will see your life blossom. Surround yourself with people that reflect positive energy to you, take notes and learn. Before you know it, you will be exactly who you WANT to be, profoundly and proud.
As always, xx V.
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